This has been an amazing month… it is a month today since the auto accident that totaled my car. I think it takes a good thirty days to get back on track (providing only minor injuries) with the groove of your life. It is as if you are suffering from a temporary mental fog and have also lost muscle memory. I found that almost every day I forgot where simple things like car keys, cell phone, house keys, purse, had been put down,resulting in my frequently leaving without at least one. I found that driving the car felt like when I was sixteen and in Driver’s Ed…..I had to think carefully about every light, every stop sign. Nothing seemed automatic, and if it did, I immediately questioned its authenticity.

The positive part is, a month later, rental car returned, new(used) car in my driveway, I am back to doing what I do….showing houses and working with customers. I am back to mowing my lawn and complaining about the humidity. I am back to real life and sitting at the computer several hours in the day, and none of these seem as taxing as they did in the past 30 day period. I am certain that I will make up the lost income in some form by the end of the year.

What I learned again is how I hate doing life as a “victim”. I guess that works for some people, and there are those who may feel they have no choice, but we always have a choice! I kept reading books that gave me knew ways of looking at the same situation with a different mindset. A new way of thinking that gave me new ways of acting, within the same circumstance. All I know is that power returned to me and positive things started happening everytime I chose to change the lens I was looking through.

Perspective comes usually as we are looking back on our life at previous events. But when you see that all previous events, even those you felt so negative at the time they happened, always turned out to be used toward your greater good. I think that is true for me and will always be true. So if I can just choose to believe that in any circumstance that arises, it ceases to have a negative hold on me. I can choose to respond to it from that position, and I will make a far better choice, involving a lot less worry and self-defeating energy, and arrive sooner at the perspective I have decided to have.