It’s funny, but I was with a loved one who is deep into twelve steps last weekend, and it got me noticing how often we are so focused on minding someone else’s business, we forget to work on the one person whose life and character  we could effectively change.

It is such a habit, however, that one really must be vigilant! It crops up all the time and I don’t think we realize it. If we could get a handle on that, I feel that tons of relationships would instantly improve! What heaven on earth that would be, really. There is usually so much more we love about a person than we don’t like, but often focus so much on the things they need to change so that we will really be happy, we stop noticing.

In walks single lady who lives alone for a weekend and all I could notice, with two different sets of friends on two different weekends, were all the tender loving things their spouse was doing that they had lost sight of. Clarity comes real fast when there is no one but yourself in the house….no one to blame for undone dishes, toilet seats left up, trash not put out.

I may hire myself out as  a visiting therapist who comes for the weekend and lives with you. Don’t know of anyone doing that, but I seem to do it naturally. Instead of a homewrecker…I’m a homesaver! Hmmmmm. Might be a need for that! And I thoroughly enjoyed the conversation and eating meals with people and watching movies together. I am also a great guest right now because I have no furry companion to worry about while I visit.

But I did go to the animal shelter today to see if a dog was calling my name. There was one whose eyes met mine for a long long time. Hope I do better with the shelter match program than I do on Match.com! I have higher hopes it will come out right for both of us, but I am going to let him miss me over the weekend, just to be sure (actually, he’s not up for adoption yet, I am not that heartless). When its time, if it is meant to be, we will begin our relationship. I’ll keep you posted!